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When Work Has Its Challenges…


We face difficulties and challenges differently. I for one would strategize how to get out of the situation, create resolutions and start working to sort things out. But other people respond differently. A friend of mine usually tries to detach herself to people when faced with challenges while another one, bursts out in discouragement and talks about it to everyone he meets.

Regardless of the challenges, one thing is for sure, our attitude determines our response to the situation. Responding negatively only brings more problems and frustration while responding the positive way helps fix the situation. We need to become part of the solution and not the problem.

Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one. -Hans Selye

Here are a couple of things I am learning while experiencing the challenges:

  1. Listen to other people’s concern but never retaliate – LISTEN. It pays to listen to a co-worker when they are venting out their frustrations. Although it might push us to retaliate when words gets very sharp but having the patience to sit for some time and know the root cause can help us better understand the situation.
  2. Affirm the other person’s point of view but rebuke when needed – the person will keep on telling the group that he or she is right. Regardless of how negative this may sound, affirming their remarks and observations helps the person to open up. We need to understand that this gives us the edge to also give our side of the observation. It becomes different when the person now pinpoints other people’s mistakes instead on focusing on what really is going on. That’s when rebuke comes in. I always remind myself to “rebuke with love” – the statement may be hard to take but sharing it the right way, without raising your voice and using right words that brings clarity not hatred matters.
  3. Always be cool-headed when talking to someone – having two hot-headed people in one room is too much. Someone will retaliate at any moment. According to my favorite author Zig Ziglar “Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude…” and being cool even when discussing hot issues gives balance and resolution always.
  4. If needed, we need to be firm with what needs to be done and get both side’s commitment – verbalizing our comments, commitment and even with a simple “yes” or “no” can level the game. It always takes two or more people to fix the issue; it can never be resolved with you just absorbing everything. You need to tell the right people and discuss resolutions. Get the commitment of the person concerned to “move on” and do something about it and if possible, not talk about it anymore in a negative way.

I hope the things I’ve shared help. And if it does, please let me know! 😉


The Visayas Blog Awards 2011

The Visayas Blog Awards 2011 is now gearing-up for the November 12 event where bloggers from the provinces within the Visayas gather together and bring the best of the best for the different categories and awards the Philippine blogosphere has to offer.

VBA 2011 Poster courtesy of Mark Will Magallanes of Republica Negrense

This year’s event will be held at the heritage City of Silay. According to Wikipedia, the city is best referred as the “Paris of Negros” due to its large collection of perfectly preserved heritage houses within the city. More than thirty of these houses have been declared as historical landmarks not just in Negros. Silay is the second Philippine city to have been declared a museum city, next to Vigan in Ilocos Sur.

Surely, the city is the best venue for such a historic event for the Negros Bloggers, a non-profit blogging society in Negros.

(Updates to follow)

The 2011 Visayas Blogging Summit

It’s a crazy November for all Blogging “rascals” (like me) as everyone is buzzing on the upcoming Visayas Blogging Summit 2011 in the Queen City of the South, Cebu City. This year’s event will be hosted by the Cebu Bloggers team who are best known for such events like World Bloggers’ Day and Best Cebu Blogs Awards respectively.

Picture Courtesy of VBS2011 site

Last year, the 2010 Visayas Blog Awards and Blogging Summit was hosted by the Iloilo Bloggers in Iloilo City wherein it gathered bloggers from Visayas, a few people from Mindanao and Manila.

With Cebu Bloggers handling this year’s event, I bet there will be more participants coming from different areas in the Visayas, specifically in the provinces of Leyte, Samar, Bohol, Dumaguete and Bacolod. It is also one airplane away from Iloilo City and the Mindanao area respectively.

The Visayas Blogging Summit 2011 will be held at SM City Cebu and will start from 8:00 AM to 5:00 PM.

What to expect during the event

On it’s official page at the Cebu Bloggers site, they gave a bird’s eye view on what to expect for the upcoming event. Below is an excerpt from the About Page I manage to read earlier:

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This year, CBSi is taking another step ahead as the organizer of the largest social media and blogging summit in the Philippines – 2nd VISAYAS BLOGGING SUMMIT. The said event is set on November 26, 2011 from 8:00 AM to 5:00 PM and expected to draw around 300 bloggers all over the Philippines.

This year, the VBS 2011 organizers are taking a step forward by providing our participants world-class talks that will better improve their craft as social media users.

With our topics and talks ranging from Personal Bloggging,Professional BloggingSocial Media Marketing for Business andSocial Media Responsibility, we are drawing not only ordinary social media users but professionals and small and medium size entrepreneurs also.

If you’re interested on what you can get more during the event, you may visit the site here – The Visayas Blogging Summit 2011 or register for the event by clicking here.

The 2011 Visayas Blogging Summit is sponsored by the following counterparts:

If you’re interested to support the said event, the Cebu Bloggers team are still actively looking for sponsors and partners. You may click below for more details:

So,what are you waiting for?

Enjoy the sights and unique wonders that Metropolitan and Cosmopolitan Cebú has to offer while learning new things about the wonders of blogging. Book your flights now!

Life and the Word “Meaningless”

“Meaningless! Meaningless!”
says the Teacher.
“Utterly meaningless!
Everything is meaningless.”

The Author of Ecclesiastes (King Solomon) was definitely correct when he mentioned doing so many things yet it becomes a meaningless effort by the end of the day (or at one’s life). And as much as I want to be secretive about this, I often experience feeling “meaningless” most of the time.

There can be a lot of reasons why we feel that way. It can be with stress due to work, a family problem or even a health problem. Nevertheless, we need to be reminded that God has given us one life to live and it should be spent wisely and meaningfully from day one to eternity.

I remember my boss’ advice in one learning session wherein he told us the importance of defining what’s important and urgent and identify things that are not important or urgent and make use of our time wisely. For us christians, we call this discernment.

This will not only lessen the time we consume over unnecessary tasks, it can also help be organized with our time and work.  It can also give us ample time to enjoy, have fun and get revitalized since life is not always about work and careers after all.

God has given us opportunities to enjoy work and provide for our family but He also gave us opportunities in life for leisure as well. The same author gave us a solid advice on how we can go about this –

“So I commend the enjoyment of life, because nothing is better for a man under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany him in his work all the days of the life God has given him under the sun…” – Ecclesiastes 8:15

Let us then be reminded to not just stay focused with work but take time to enjoy and be with friends and family. Work will always be there but our missed opportunity to spend quality time with our close friends and family can never be retrieved or paid by the things we achieve at work.

Our world can be so hectic that we often neglect the importance of sitting still or have fun. It is always important to make time to relax and forget about our work and family problems and focus on the happy side of life. If we spend time off from work, we get refreshed, refocused and revitalized to do more and be more for the challenges we face daily.

My friends and I usually talk about what will happen when we have gray hairs and sit by and talk about some stuff. We often enjoy sharing our stories about sitting at the side of the beach, discussing about the good old days and our experiences.

We often laugh about the idea of our grandchildren bringing us to our favorite spot and spend quality time with one another after years of work, family life and among other things. There came a point wherein all of us shared one thing that we want to do and leave as a legacy. Although not all of us have the same desires, we dreamed of sitting down one day when we are old and with gray hair and tell our younger generation about life experiences and give sound advice to their own dilemmas as well.

I’m excited when that time comes, it is an opportunity to share, reflect and agree to King Solomon’s wisdom on life, aging and fullness.